Wholly agree, it’s a spectrum. I’m het, but that’s just a shorthand convenience label that says I’m for the most part attracted to people that don’t look like me, even if it’s not particularly useful or necessarily true, but I don’t think it’s a bad word if it’s helping express something I like.
When I do think it’s an awful word is when it’s used to restrict someone’s freedom in choosing a partner, or forcing someone’s view of themselves into a black and white stereotype, so it’s a rather loaded word at this point.
It’s just so simplistic and limiting for there to be words that treat attraction like a fixed trait. I’ve got to be straight, gay, bi, or some global descriptor for my own behaviour? That sucks.
Like maybe I’m straight, but in a “knows when dudes are hot and comfortable at kink parties” way, you know? There’s no word that doesn’t lump me in with loads of people I have nothing in common with.
Wholly agree, it’s a spectrum. I’m het, but that’s just a shorthand convenience label that says I’m for the most part attracted to people that don’t look like me, even if it’s not particularly useful or necessarily true, but I don’t think it’s a bad word if it’s helping express something I like.
When I do think it’s an awful word is when it’s used to restrict someone’s freedom in choosing a partner, or forcing someone’s view of themselves into a black and white stereotype, so it’s a rather loaded word at this point.
It’s just so simplistic and limiting for there to be words that treat attraction like a fixed trait. I’ve got to be straight, gay, bi, or some global descriptor for my own behaviour? That sucks.
Like maybe I’m straight, but in a “knows when dudes are hot and comfortable at kink parties” way, you know? There’s no word that doesn’t lump me in with loads of people I have nothing in common with.
I’m throwing you in the “fun people” pile, so there’s another label ;)
I’m not even fun half the time I’m fuckin SLEEPY