This is sooooo me and my bf, omfg 😭
Three times a day, every single day, I ask him this question. And he always replies in the same manner. I wuv him 🩷

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          16 hours ago

          I’m 7 years into a relationship like this. I love her, but it’s breaking us apart. If you love your SO, please don’t neglect your mental health. What is reassuring and cute to you can become a taxing chore with time until one person is more like a caretaker than a lover.

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            15 hours ago

            New question: “would you love me even if I kept asking if you love me to point that you become more like a caretaker than a lover?”

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            12 hours ago

            I know he’s acting like a caretaker for me. I know I’m just being a burden to him. I’m just pulling him down with me…
            Don’t worry. I’m aware how pathetic I am. I really am…but I don’t think I’ll get much better. It’s my fault that I started this relationship, I’m only hurting him and making more work for him in the end 🥲

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              50 minutes ago

              I recognize everything you say and the tone of it, and I’m just immune to that angle. If you take a step back and look at it, it’s an appeal for more reassurance. I’m just saying that for your partners sake, and if you actually want the relationship to work, the best thing you can do is working on your confidence. If you don’t, every “But baby I do love you let me show you” will gradually become hollow words, and eventually filled with resentment. That’s not what you actually want, right?

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              Well it sounds like your partner is telling you he loves you even if things stay the way they are and that should make the two of you very happy. It sounds like you are doing this, but just remember it is always worth trying to improve your own mental health situation even when things feel hopeless. It’s not selfish to need help and support as long as you and your partner have healthy boundaries and can communicate openly and honestly.