I have no idea what there is not to understand about this…and why it’s mostly men complaining about “protecting women’s spaces”, lol.

This might upset some people, and you know what? Good.
If this upsets you, at least the others will know and the trash can take itself out.

    • velma@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      33·
      2 days ago

      I’ve never had a trans person cat call me, sexually harass me, rape me, tell me to smile, tell me I should get in his car, tell me I should suck his dick, put his hand on my thigh, press his body into mine on the bus.

      What’s upsetting is you dismissing the real dangers women face in order to turn the conversation from trans issues into crying about your own gender.

      Don’t want women to be scared of men? Call out other men instead of scolding women for being scared.

    • MrNobody@quokk.auEnglish
      34·
      2 days ago

      Statistics show men are constant threat to women. It’s not even the same, and I say this as a cis man.

                • Miisha@lemmy.blahaj.zonedeleted by creatorOPEnglish
                  4·
                  1 day ago

                  Who’s spreading misinformation…?
                  The majority of the statements I’ve seen here (not the ones from the now-banned users) have been nothing but truthful

                  • incompetent@programming.devEnglish
                    1·
                    1 day ago

                    The person I responded to said “always a man.” If that were true then that means a woman has never been a rapist. There is plenty of evidence proving them wrong.

            • velma@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
              3·
              1 day ago

              I hope you have this same energy towards comments supporting rapists and don’t save being pedantic for women expressing anger at rape.

        • erin@piefed.blahaj.zoneEnglish
          9·
          1 day ago

          No one is generalizing all men. Statistically, men are a FAR greater threat to women than vice versa. Additionally, men are a far greater threat to cis women than trans women are. It isn’t even close. It isn’t something intrinsic to being a man, or all men, but it is due to a set of societal standards that value men above women.

          If you hear women being afraid of men, don’t take it personally. I am afraid of men I don’t know not because all men are dangerous, but because you cannot tell a predator by looking at them. Again, it’s not all men. No one is saying that. It’s just the vast majority of sexual predators are men, and women are statistically much more likely to be in danger from a man. I have been sexually assaulted, and I won’t spare a second thought for the idea that protecting myself might hurt another man’s feelings.

        • velma@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
          7·
          1 day ago

          The answer is to let people use the restroom that they feel fits the best and prosecute the people who predate on others.

          It’s not difficult and it’s not confusing.

            • velma@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
              5·
              1 day ago

              I also have sympathy for the cis woman who lives her life thinking she’s safer with a bear than a man, feeling upset that there might be a person with a penis in a place that used to be a safe space for her.

              First off - how dare you take that man vs bear debate and frame women choosing the bear as TERFs.

              Second - Restrooms aren’t safe spaces, men have gone into restrooms to assault women before and will continue to do so no matter what sign is on the door.

              Third - giving in to our unfounded fears and punishing innocents for our own lack of education isn’t an option. It shouldn’t be an option. Trans women are not inherently dangerous to cis women.