If your conclusion is that the entire gender is this way, then yes you are.
I’ve been cheated on a bunch. Would it be fair of me to say all women are cheaters? Of course not, because my life experiences aren’t representative of the population.
Here’s the difference: Me getting angry and hating men has no material impact on men’s lives. No policy under a patriarchal system will be enacted to empower women at the expense of men. Men hating women leads to laws restricting our autonomy. Men hating women leads them to commit rape, exploitation, beatings, and murders. But sure it’s totally a “both sides” thing.
yeah, that’s how /systemic racism/ works. systemic does mean only the bureaucracy, it means /everything/. racism is baked into our values, behavior, and perspective from birth. we are not taught racism as some separate thing, everything we are taught is steeped in it. you can’t be non-racist, you either do the work to root out the bigotry you were built with every day to be anti-racist or you remain racist as you were raised. when you do something that /could/ be racist, it will be unless you are vigilant and stop it. all white people are racist by default and all men are misogynist by default. it takes active work to be anti-racist and anti-misogynist, and most people in oppressors groups don’t do that work.
this is a good way to put it, but nobody gives a shit about misandry on lemmy.
it’s a shame nobody ever gives thought about how the patriarchy also harms men. It’s been a boot on my throat my entire life, but since I have a penis fuck me ig. In queer spaces I get to be considered “one of the good ones” as if it makes hearing rhetoric about killing all men any better.
ah well, if being a femboy is dealing with all the bullshit that happens to women, ig having no place where you feel accepted is just part and parcel. it’s nice to see people like you try to explain it though.
“nobody gives a shit about misandry on Lemmy” idk given the sheer amount of comments on this post alone I think Lemmy is full of butthurt dudes crying “misandry bad”.
If it’s any consolation I don’t consider you “one of the good ones”. Queer men still benefit from (and often uphold) the patriarchy.
I don’t hate men for their genitals. I hate men because they’re men whether they have penises, vaginas, or any other arrangement. And no, hating my oppressors does not add to anyone’s oppression.
You’re letting your anecdotal experience taint your worldview.
Me when I meet a victim of systemic oppression: you’re letting your anecdotal experience taint your worldview
If your conclusion is that the entire gender is this way, then yes you are.
I’ve been cheated on a bunch. Would it be fair of me to say all women are cheaters? Of course not, because my life experiences aren’t representative of the population.
Here’s the difference: Me getting angry and hating men has no material impact on men’s lives. No policy under a patriarchal system will be enacted to empower women at the expense of men. Men hating women leads to laws restricting our autonomy. Men hating women leads them to commit rape, exploitation, beatings, and murders. But sure it’s totally a “both sides” thing.
Actually, I would counter that your vocally hating men that you’re encountering with on social media is creating a hostile experience on social media.
Your thinking that “it’s not doing anything bad” is wrong.
But I also am aware that you are simply venting your frustrations, and that you literally do not care what my response is.
My purpose in responding is not to antagonize you. It’s simply to state that you cannot right a wrong by committing another wrong.
That still doesn’t mean that it’s the majority of men.
Sounds like you’re angry at the system, not the gender. The system is propped up by a relatively small amount of people.
It would be like saying all white people are racist because systemic racism still exists.
yeah, that’s how /systemic racism/ works. systemic does mean only the bureaucracy, it means /everything/. racism is baked into our values, behavior, and perspective from birth. we are not taught racism as some separate thing, everything we are taught is steeped in it. you can’t be non-racist, you either do the work to root out the bigotry you were built with every day to be anti-racist or you remain racist as you were raised. when you do something that /could/ be racist, it will be unless you are vigilant and stop it. all white people are racist by default and all men are misogynist by default. it takes active work to be anti-racist and anti-misogynist, and most people in oppressors groups don’t do that work.
Ok buddy
Your hating me for my genitals adds to the total amount of oppression in the system and alleviates none of it.
this is a good way to put it, but nobody gives a shit about misandry on lemmy.
it’s a shame nobody ever gives thought about how the patriarchy also harms men. It’s been a boot on my throat my entire life, but since I have a penis fuck me ig. In queer spaces I get to be considered “one of the good ones” as if it makes hearing rhetoric about killing all men any better.
ah well, if being a femboy is dealing with all the bullshit that happens to women, ig having no place where you feel accepted is just part and parcel. it’s nice to see people like you try to explain it though.
“nobody gives a shit about misandry on Lemmy” idk given the sheer amount of comments on this post alone I think Lemmy is full of butthurt dudes crying “misandry bad”. If it’s any consolation I don’t consider you “one of the good ones”. Queer men still benefit from (and often uphold) the patriarchy.
I don’t hate men for their genitals. I hate men because they’re men whether they have penises, vaginas, or any other arrangement. And no, hating my oppressors does not add to anyone’s oppression.
You’re completely missing the point.
No, you just think I am
LMAO