This is literally my current relationship situation, and hey, I’m happy :3
We both look a bit different on the outside, but on the inside…this is us 🩷

Also I won’t ever stop wearing this really fucking stupid-looking hoodie. You literally can’t make me 😭

    • Maelvie@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      5·
      1 day ago

      The simple explanation is that bi implies a binarity of gender (men/women) but pan applies to everybody regardless of their physical attributes (you’re attracted to a person, whatever physical form they may have)

      • Bev's Dad@lemmy.caEnglish
        2·
        19 hours ago

        This is the correct definition for sure but in my experience soooo many functionally pan people label themselves as bi for one reason or another. Either because that’s the first queer label they’ve found for themselves, because it sounds cuter or because they’d rather not have to explain what pan means for the thousandth time.

      • tomenzgg@midwest.socialEnglish
        6·
        24 hours ago

        No; it doesn’t. We’ve been saying this since, at least, the 90s:

        Bisexuality is a whole, fluid identity. Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in nature: that we have “two” sides or that we must be involved simultaneously with both genders to be fulfilled human beings. In fact, don’t assume that there are only two genders. Do not mistake our fluidity for confusion, irresponsibility, or an inability to commit. Do not equate promiscuity, infidelity, or unsafe sexual behavior with bisexuality. Those are human traits that cross all sexual orientations. Nothing should be assumed about anyone’s sexuality, including your own.

        —The Anything That Moves Manifesto, 1990

        Bisexuals are attracted to people who have the same gender as their own and those who have a gender different from their own; that’s the extent of the two.

        • Maelvie@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
          1·
          1 day ago

          Yep thats the not so simple explanation about bi people, but you should also explain the difference with being pan then.

          Edit: added the second part

          • nforminvasion@lemmy.worldEnglish
            3·
            17 hours ago

            There is none. Like genuinely, not being facetious or cruel, I just genuinely see no difference whatsoever between every non-biphobic definition of pansexual and bisexual. But hey, call people what they want, as long as it genuinely makes them feel loved, versus them identifying that way to be unique from x group or label.

          • tomenzgg@midwest.socialEnglish
            3·
            24 hours ago

            I couldn’t say; I don’t identify as pansexual, I’m afraid. All I can speak to definitively is the way that bisexuals define themselves and have defined themselves for decades.