• GiveOver@feddit.uk
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    19 hours ago

    Why is this usage of tea so confusing for everybody? We re-use words all the time in English. It’s a very simple concept. Imagine if a musician asked about the key of a song and everybody was like “KEY? LIKE A CAR KEY? WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT? SONGS DONT HAVE KEYS! IVE NEVER BEEN SO CONFUSED IN MY LIFE”

    Up north we say “tea” for evening meal. That’s it. Explanation sorted.

    • Techno-rat@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      24 minutes ago

      bruh because it’s confusing that a meal is named after a beverage, it’s not the double naming that’s confusing

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      15 hours ago

      Terrible example and it’s just demonstrating that you can’t put yourself in someone else’s shoes for even a moment.

      You understand that usage of tea because you used it your entire life, someone who hasn’t would rightfully be confused.

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        54 minutes ago

        Not OP, but out of interest, if you are from the UK, what did you call the (primarily) women who served food in school at around noon?

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        15 hours ago

        Ok it was a deliberately silly example for emphasis. Here’s a real example. I went to Australia once and in the airport somebody referred to my Mentos as “lolly”. To me, lollies are on a stick. Apparently not to aussies. It threw me off for half a second, but that’s it. Confused is an overstatement.

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          5 hours ago

          Imagine you are cooking a chicken. Your flatmate walks in, sees what you’re doing, and says, oh, are you making coffee?

          You wouldn’t be just a little bit confused at first?

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          14 hours ago

          Yeah but the context clues are a hell of a lot easier there. You’re holding an object, and if someone called it a chupa-chupa or a sucker most people would be able to put that together pretty easily

          Now imagine you’re going through stretches and someone walks in and is like “oh, playing football are you”. You could be preparing to go outside and play football… But you’re just stretching

          I think most people would be confused by that unexpected second meaning of a familiar word

    • 9point6@lemmy.world
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      14 hours ago

      Yeah, but as someone who grew up down south and has lived in the north for the majority of my life:

      Breakfast, lunch, dinner

      Very clear, no fucker doesn’t know what you’re talking about

      Breakfast, dinner, tea

      What the fuck are you playing at, skipping lunch and having a drink to compensate?

      Get in the sea

      Tea is important enough in this country to not use the word again, especially not for the second most important thing: dinner

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        14 hours ago

        Breakfast, lunch, dinner

        Dinner is at midday, what are you playing at having 2 meals at midday and no evening meal? Get back to France

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          13 hours ago

          I am also someone who grew up down south and we always had breakfast, lunch and tea \o/

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            10 hours ago

            Yeah, it’s actually more based around industrialisation than a north/south thing. I think the Cornish miners also came home for noon dinner as the main meal of the day and then had tea in the evening.

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      15 hours ago

      It’s ok how much you like tea. I’m sorry they hurt you about it. Tea is super neat and fun and good. You are super neat and fun and good.

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      17 hours ago

      It still confuses me that I can have a cup of coffee with somebody without actually drinking coffee. (In English and my mother tongue as well.)

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        11 hours ago

        As a coffee drinker, if I was invited for some coffee and did not in fact get any coffee I’d be both a little confused and a little annoyed.

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          7 hours ago

          In Brazil, “café da manhã” (morning coffee) is the term for breakfast, but it’s often shortened to just “café.”

          There was a mobile blood donation set up during Covid and I asked the group chat if it was okay to have coffee before donating, and the response was, “Yes, you should definitely be well-fed before donating blood.”

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            5 hours ago

            That’s pretty good!

            Is the context where if you had said can i drink coffee before, it would have been less ambiguous?

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          9 hours ago

          Yeah once a date invited me up for coffee and I was enjoying my time with her and thought another 15 minutes or so of conversation would be nice, but then it was suddenly like she forgot she invited me in or something because she just started getting ready for bed instead of making any coffee! I just politely said I needed to get going so she didn’t feel embarrassed about forgetting she had invited me for coffee, though I think I failed because she did seem a bit upset.

          So I tried to be considerate and go through a coffee shop drivethru after the next couple of dates. Even then, she offered coffee the first time and I pointed at my cup and said I’m fine, though that seemed to make her feel even more embarrassed as she looked like she was about to cry after that.

          Then the next time she said, “I think we’ve been having a miscommunication when I’ve been inviting you up for coffee, I didn’t really mean coffee, but I was being a bit immature and dancing around what I really wanted and then getting my feelings hurt when you didn’t get the message. So I’ll just say what I mean this time. Would you like to come up and have sex with me?”

          I informed her that’s where babies come from and she already knew and still wanted it. Then she was trying to say something about being on a pill and I noped out of there. I am not interested in a relationship where my partner likes to get high on pills and have babies. That just seems irresponsible to me.