Since you didn’t learn from the top comment in your last thread, allow me to repeat it here:
It’s your fault, accept the shame and teach her.
As I discovered the hard way with my wife, if someone doesn’t care about something, you can’t teach them.
You just have to decide if this annoyance is worth putting up with because of other things you love about them.
The problem with teenagers is that they dont care about anything.
With the context of the previous post, surely it’s genetic. Did she inherit this trait from Mom or Dad?
You know you’re telling on yourself right. Parents are supposed to teach their kids these skills, man what have you been doing!! (/s)
If this is a shared fridge i would try to implement a 2-3 drink per person policy to get those boxes of drinks out of there. Keep the boxes of drinks nearby and refill as you take cold ones. The freezer can be used if consumption rate is gonna be faster than the cooling rate.
A fridge full of condiments and no food. Why don’t you throw out some of those (probably expired) jars of goop so there’s room for leftovers?
You’re right, I’m getting side tracked; let’s keep the conversation about your daughter. Maybe you should have a talk with who raised her?
Edit: just saw your linked post about the dishwasher. Wow dude. Two years and you’re bitching to the internet instead of raising your children. I hope you’re looking forward to sitting in that nursing home wondering why the kids never call.
Well he’s obviously busy drinking his own adulthood away, she probably was in a rush to get away from his drunk ass.
Honesty I would put it down
She’s a her and that really sounds a bit too drastic.
I would eat it personally, cold pizza is fine.
Says the person who’s wasting letters writing titles inefficientlylyly
Weirdly enough I had a similar problem until I took the Washington state food handlers test and certification online. It basically showed me why many of my untrained food storage habits were actually dangerous.
I mean … I still do that but at least now I know.
Remember that those are designed to cover asses and cater to people with many different levels of working immune system. You may or may not need to actually be anywhere near that strict in your own home.
Gift idea for your daughter
That’s pretty efficient, though. She’s making use of the vertical space.
Spouse got into containers. MAXIMUM space achieved, but now we get to eat leftovers for most of the week
Try cooking in smaller batches.
Cooking once and eating leftovers all week might sound like hell to the eater, but it’s heaven for the cooker.
Oh I cook for 2. Spouse cooks like they learned at a 15 person farm. Great for meal prep, not so much for variety
ok boomer
In the same way that being trans is not a choice but comes with the human experience of being that person and living in that body, being of a certain age is also just not a choice. Getting randomly bitchslapped for it as I skim through comments is unpleasant, which was clearly your intent.
I’d expect someone who knows what it is to be othered as a matter of rote to also refrain from using othering terms, rather than selfishly offloading the same exact casually offensive shit unnecessarily onto those they in turn consider to be easy targets.
Guess I expected wrong.
In the same way that being trans is not a choice but comes with the human experience of being that person and living in that body, being of a certain age is also just not a choice. Getting randomly bitchslapped for it as I skim through comments is unpleasant, which was clearly your intent.
It’s the shitty behavior, shitting on someone else just for being unlike you and having different standards for yourself, that i was calling out. Don’t even try to make this an ageism thing because we both know you know it isn’t. Nice try scumbag, fuck off.
Writing a guilt trip to compare “ok boomer” to the vitriol and hate that trans people experience is some big boomer energy.
LOL
“Everyone I don’t like is a boomer. “
“Every lifestyle different from mine is inferior and a sign of bad character!” - Dipshit Boomer, esq.
ok boomer /s
The tighter a fridge is packed, the more will be thrown in the trash
Seems fine to me. Taking everything out to put the pizza box on the bottom, then removing it again to take out a slice of pizza is inefficient
i do the same thing. the leftover pizza will be gone first thing in the morning anyway.
If it fits it sits.
Just out of curiosity, who raised her?
Exactly. Parents who complain about their kids behavior…like, did you drop them off with a pack of wolves or did you actually pay attention to them and take time out for them to teach them as opposed to yelling, dictating and insulting them?
Oh wait, maybe that’s just how I was brought up.
Yeah, my parents are still wondering “where did we go wrong,” as if they’re surprised I turned out to be worthless…
Like, I fought like hell to thrive despite how they raised me, and in the end it came crashing down around me because the psychological conditioning was just too deep set.
And it didn’t help that every time I started to get on my feet, they dragged me back down cause I guess it made them feel bad when they saw me start to do well any time I managed to cut them off temporarily. Buy they’d wriggle their way back into my life and start sabotaging everything all over again by talking down to me in strategic ways designed to trigger my ancient complexes and insecurities like only they know how to do…
hey there, sounds like my family. the ONLY thing that allowed me to start healing was a hard cutoff (dad) and low contact (mom). it is different for everyone, but if it is the right thing for you, do it. they made choices while parenting that will have natural consequences for everyone involved
I know it’s just words, but try like hell to make a life despite them. I know that with the state of things right now that’s crazy hard to do.
My mom actually got jealous when I finally got a nicer vehicle than she and my dad had. I drove clunkers my entire life until the last 8-9 years and I was proud of my new nice vehicle and she couldn’t even be happy for me. All she could see is that her gay child who escaped the evangelical upbringing was actually living better than she and my father.
The toxicity runs deep in some parents.
Also, you’re not worthless!
I can’t, it’s too late for that. The struggle and psychological pressure led to too many mental breakdowns, and I’ve embarrassed myself in public too many times to step outside anymore. I used to live independently but a series of trips to the mental hospital and a spiral of crushing debt led me squarely back into their basement where things were still turbulent for a couple years and I made a series of attempts to move out on my own again but I’m just so psychologically broken at this point that I can’t pull off the most basic things.
And yeah, they definitely had that evangelical strain of conservative christianity. It’s how I was raised and that did a hell of a lot of damage too, even completely aside from the constant put-downs speckled with unrealistically high expectations.
Being sheltered and homeschooled and taught the bible from a baptist perspective and going to a church youth group where I met my abuser and was told to look up to him as a leader didn’t help much either. By the time I was an adult I couldn’t even interact with people. I spent all those years when most people are learning how to socialize and be normal, instead I was learning the opposite. People picked up on that easily and so I was ostracized and demeaned even more, cause people love ganging up on an easy target.
By the time I started deprogramming from religion it still took me several years to complete the process, and that finally leaves me at square one, albeit without the decades of social skills that most people have cultivated by my age. And in addition I have all the baggage of every foolish thing I’ve said or done along the way.
There’s really no path forward for me. I’m a hikikomori at this point and I’m just barely starting to accept that fate with resignation.
By any chance, are you neurodivergent or suspect you may be? Before I learned that I was my life made no sense, and I stayed hella depressed. It wasn’t until I was diagnosed as autistic that my life slowly started making more sense. That doesn’t excuse or dismiss the damage caused by your parents, but it does provide a new reframing of things.
Almost certainly. But I never got screened as a kid even when I begged to find out what’s wrong with me, because back then an autism diagnosis would have brought shame on the family or whatever, so I just got yelled at and told to stop asking…
And yes, my life does make a lot more sense when I consider that I might be on the spectrum, but that’s not enough to convince people to understand or be accommodating. Hell, even if I had a diagnosis, most people still wouldn’t understand or be accommodating.
And besides, I’ve asked my healthcare providers later as an adult to screen me, but it’s not exactly their specialty. Also that was back when I was a regular pot smoker and they told me I had to be off weed for a year before they would send me to a specialist.
It’s been about a year since I’ve smoked weed at this point, but it’s also been longer than that since I’ve seen a doctor and I’m pretty sure they’ve already disenrolled me from their system. I also just don’t feel like going through the hassle anymore.
Ah, I see. It is difficult to get a diagnosis as an adult. However, it really doesn’t matter unless you’re trying to apply for SSI or similarly in whatever country to reside in.
The part that helps is to find likeminded people online and in real life if you want. I have matrix group for autistic folks if you’re interested. It’s still small, but it’s slowly growing. It just helps to talk to people experiencing similar challenges.
Probably an iPad
Considering the daughter has 3 daughters of her own, probably not.
Technically possible. Technically. Without much child rape, even!
The ipad released 2010. Let’s say the daughter was 3 years old at that point, they’d be 19 today. Minus 2.5 years to pump out 3 kids, they could have started at 17. Which is not unbelievable in some areas.
Yes, the ipad has been around long enough that generations raised on it could be parents now. If I made you feel old, you’re welcome.
Edit: OK, so they had 3 kids 2 years ago. Maybe a teeny bit of Epstein then.
Lol, this is what I tell my wife when she complains about one of our kids. “Guess they weren’t brought up right”.
For real though…children are humans with independent thoughts and a world of influences. Blaming parents for anything kids do wrong if insane, as if they’re little automatons who have been programmed by parents.
I’m my family this would have resulted in one parent telling the other parent that “your daughter” wasn’t raised right. That’s all I’m saying.
For this sort of thing I’m not sure it matters. You either give a shit about this or it doesn’t even reach your attention. I’ve seen people raised by meticulous engineers that do this kind of crap. It drives those of us that care absolutely nutty as it would literally take effort for us to do something like this so we assume it’s done to piss us off but it usually is just something that some people don’t attend to at all. In their mind it’s just pizza in fridge, done, next thing.
Me, and I couldn’t be more proud of her for at least trying.
People seem to have taken this as a slight against op, but I’m gonna be real with you, for me it’s not that deep. Better to be shoved in sideways than not put in the fridge at all.
I tell my wife all the time: if you can at least put it in the fridge, then it won’t go bad. If I don’t like where you put it, I can always reorganize later. I can’t un-spoil food.
