• riwo@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    1 hour ago

    that’s what i though about my gender and then i always got mad at people guessing without asking me and guessing wrong and it got awkward and honestly i should have just told them cause honestly if the ignorant mountain doesn’t come to you, you gotta be the bigger bitch and come to the mounten or something i don’t fucking know

    fuck this society and it’s normativities but unfortunately it won’t change on it’s own :<

    • Apytele@sh.itjust.works
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      9 minutes ago

      The secret is to just not care what people call you when you’re not there. Even when I’m in the room and people are talking about me it’s mostly just funny to listen to whatever they come up with.

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    59 minutes ago

    It’s not a me problem either, it has absolutely nothing to do with me. Don’t come out, come out, whatever.

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    Not my job to know what someone wants to be called…? The childish entitlement sheesh

    • riwo@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      heyy, it’s ok if you do not know someones gender. it’s really not that important. just treat it as the unknown that it is, and either refer to the person gender neutrally, or ask if you need to know. just please do not guess, because that just leads to you accidentally hurting people :)

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      4 hours ago

      Yeah. I don’t mind calling you whatever you like if you tell me. Otherwise I just don’t give a shit and I’ll call you whatever I feel like.

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        I hate introducing myself. how is you not knowing my name a me problem. figure it out idiot.

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    The solution to that is just using random pronouns. If they make an angry look, you used the wrong one

    • applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      the oblivion persuasion wheel of pronoun selection. just be sure not to pick the wrong one too many times or their opinion of you will be unrecoverable.