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  • toynbee@lemmy.worldtoMemes@lemmy.mlStay vigilant
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    8 days ago

    I used to almost exclusively listen to any kind of audio through headphones. I had a microphone near my desk configured so that it would pass through the vibration of footsteps directly to my headphones. I was rarely startled, no matter what sordid activity I was undertaking.









  • That does sound very annoying! The first time I noticed my cat doing this, her food and litter box were in the basement, which was stone and dirt in that house. (We put them down there because it was the only place in that house where we could practically prevent the dog from getting to them.) Nowadays the cat stuff is in, essentially, a much cleaner sun porch; as a result, we still have to clean her bowl more frequently than seems reasonable, but it lasts a lot longer than it used to.


  • Just to be clear in case I sound hostile in my response, I’m not trying to be and am genuinely trying to reach an accord here. No sarcasm or anything.

    Condescending to … Whom? My wife? I know her quite well; in past situations where I’ve pointed out any flaw in something she enjoys (generally not grammar related), that has become the focal point of the object for her. The grammatical stylings of the candle label are not something she can practically fix, so if she enjoys the label and I point out that it differs from the grammar I was taught, I would achieve nothing but … Ruining her enjoyment of it. Sincerely asking, how would you have phrased this to be less condescending? I don’t think she would have interpreted it as such, but if I can express myself more kindly to anyone I’d be happy to.

    I am sorry if I have offended you, even by proxy. As I said, I generally don’t comment on grammar (excluding in the context of my toddler and solely in an effort to help them learn). Certainly, when I do, I have no interest in a “gotcha” other than maybe when gently trolling a friend whom I know well enough to know that they won’t take it seriously. Even that is a stretch.

    I try to use good grammar in the interest of expressing myself clearly because I find socialization and conversation challenging and am trying to ensure that my meaning is interpreted accurately. Because I’m trying to use good grammar, I pay attention to the rules I think I know and therefore probably notice if those rules aren’t followed. However, if I believe that I’ve accurately interpreted the intent behind another adult’s statement, there’s not much reason to comment on the grammar (other than positively, anyway).

    I think you misinterpreted the intent behind my statement, but I fully accept that perhaps I’ve expressed myself poorly. If that is the case, I thank you in advance for helping me to learn.




  • Well, I don’t disagree with you.

    I’ve never said anything to my wife about it because I don’t want to ruin whatever enjoyment she gets out of it.

    In fact, I’ve never said anything about it outside of my own head (before the above comment) because correcting grammar (or commenting on grammatical style) when the meaning of the statement is clear rarely improves anything or anyone; in this case, I thought it relevant to the conversation, though the court of public opinion appears to disagree.

    Ah well.


  • I 100% have said that exact sentence and other grammatically similar ones.

    I acknowledge, in the spirit of this conversation, that the previous sentence should probably have one to two commas in it. However, I’m not adding them since I’m very tired and the post probably won’t be placed above anyone’s toilet for frequent observation.

    I also acknowledge that typing that was probably a lot more effort than adding one to two commas.



  • It’s worth noting that much of that time was during a lockdown and subsequent years involved working from home. Also in the intervening time I bought my wife an EV, which provides most of my transportation.

    The gas vehicle is used about once a week to pick up heavy or large things or to take large boxes to the recycling area; plus there are occasions where my wife is out in her EV and I have to go somewhere. During these occasions I am grateful to have my own transportation.

    It’s true that I don’t get much use out of the car, but I live in a fairly rural area. The closest non residential building that I know of is 2-3 miles away and I have limited mobility due to an injury. There’s no presence whatsoever of any Uber type services; I don’t even know of a taxi industry, though there likely is one. If I didn’t have reliable transportation I would be pretty screwed. Even during the week or two between when my Flex broke down and I replaced it, I had to cancel two doctor appointments and miss other things I wanted to do.

    I probably would survive if all we had was my wife’s car, but I would lose to a lot of convenience and my schedule would definitely get more complicated.