Single-shaming is real. It’s particularly nasty because it can often come from family, friends, and strangers alike. And the media does it constantly.

Most governments are set up to support and value married folks with tax breaks and incentives, fuck everybody else.

Guess who’s less likely to be able to buy even a small house because you need at least two huge incomes these days to even qualify? That’s right, single people.

I’ve been single for about a decade, and I’m overall pretty happy. Every once in a while I do find myself in a self-inflicted shame spiral, but I always tell myself “Bertram, this is your life, live it however you want to live it.”

That said, I’m not opposed to finding a partner, somehow, but I’ve built a nice little life for myself so it’s just not a priority. Especially because I wouldn’t even know where to start…

After lighting the candles we used to bang on the table and chant suf-ga-niyot! suf-ga-niyot! like the little animals we were…

Needless to say, it took weeks to get the smell of oil out of our clothes with all the latkes and donuts we devoured….

Hell yeah, thanks! I’ll definitely give that a try.

Hah! Funny you bring up chopped liver. That was one of the only things my parents could get me to eat on matzah until I found out what it was…then I was piiiissed at them for withholding that vital information. What a dumb kid I must have been. Your veggie version sounds excellent!

Wait, do you actually like matzah?! I’m totally on your daughter’s side lol. It was always a groan in my household. Ugh, time for a week of cardboard sandwiches.

The only thing to look forward to was sweet matzah-brie: matzah soaked in water to soften it up, then soaked in eggs with cinnamon, sautéed, then covered with maple syrup or sugar. Basically matzah French toast.

Yeah, I wouldn’t bother making her try gefilte fish, unless you make it yourself in your bathtub!

I’m really curious what he thinks about it. On the one hand, his female roles are a big part of his career, and he’s been a solid actor for years. On the other hand, I can totally empathize with just not wanting to see that name ever again.

It’s not the same thing, but we don’t go back and edit credits when actors change their names because of marriage or divorce, but that’s less about their identity as a person and more just that they got married, so not a great example.

Can any trans folks chime in with their thoughts on how to deal with retroactive credits? Doesn’t have to be just film and television, but anywhere that people are credited for their work. Super curious what people think the standard should be.

There are so many to choose from, I’d search around a bit on your own to find one that meets your needs. As much as I hate diverting traffic to the place that should not be named, r/usenet has an extensive wiki of providers and is a good place to start.

If you don’t care about any of that and just want a single answer, I use Newsgroup Ninja. It’s one of the cheapest options even when it’s not on sale. But wait a couple weeks, they usually have a significant Black Friday sale.

Oh yeah, books galore. Plenty of games too, but be cautious with that kind of thing…wouldn’t trust them to be honest.

I’ve been using Usenet for about 20 years. So many upsides.

Usenet traffic is essentially indistinguishable from normal internet traffic, so you don’t have to worry about hiding your activity with a VPN (though you still can of course). And since you don’t need to upload/seed anything, you’re safe in that regard.

Downloads are pretty much always available, no seeds. Once a file is uploaded and propagated across all the servers, everyone can just download it at whatever full speed their connection allows. I saturate my connection at around 110 Megabytes per second. There are retention times based on your Usenet provider, but they’re incredibly high these days so I doubt you’d come across many incomplete downloads, if any.

Quality is consistent. This is the biggest deal for me, as I’m incredibly snobby about quality. Want 4K SDR because the HDR on your TV sucks? You can find it for most new shows. Want a version with a super-high bitrate? It’s usually out there. Full untouched BluRay rips? Definitely. Nearly all media is available from SD up through 4K, from consistent uploaders/groups so you can rely on the overall quality. And since you don’t have to worry about seeding or download speeds, you can grab the highest quality you want as long as you have enough disk space.

Automation is a cinch with native arr integrations, and new shows and movies are usually available right after they air, often before it’s finished airing. If a show airs at 8pm you can usually grab it by 8:15, 9:15 at the latest.

Keep an eye out on Black Friday, providers usually have awesome deals.

I’m replaying Cyberpunk, so I thought you were asking about Braindances…

But to answer your question, Handbrake.