• Awesomo85@sh.itjust.works
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    29 days ago

    My MIL is this kind of extrovert. She assumes that if someone isn’t constantly talking to her that they hate her.

    Look lady: I love your daughter to death! I love you to death! I DON’T HAVE ANY NEW DEVELOPMENTS IN MY LIFE!! And you KNOW that!! Trust me, when I do, I WILL LET YOU KNOW!! In the meantime, business as usual and I don’t have any opinions on anything outside of my purview!

    I swear, if ever she was forced to sit in front of a group of people in silence, her head might explode.

    • itsnicodegallo@lemm.ee
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      29 days ago

      As somebody with social anxiety, it sounds like your MIL also has social anxiety. Hence, the constant need to have to reinforce that other people can stand her. I had to train this out of myself in my late teens/early 20s.

      I know it’s annoying to deal with, but showing a little compassion and simply affirming that you’re exhausted but her relationship with you is secure will go a long way for her. She’ll probably get used to you being quiet around her too.