196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish · 12 hours ago

Miisha is gone again :(

196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish · 12 hours ago

I’m sorry… I think it’s me who triggered this by worrying about her so much (I won’t why but it’s not life-threatening) I messaged her on Lemmy (she’s not online on Matrix), making her open a chat which we last used…

CW: self-harm

…when she had suicidal thoughts and as the police suggested I pretended to want to come so I could make them do a wellness check… ultimately did make her less willing to die but not nice of me

At least nobody (not even the police, who didn’t ask for her username) but me (who she accidentally sent her name to) knows her real name in connection with the Lemmy and Matrix accounts, so she technically wasn’t doxxed; the police didn’t tell me the address they found in their database of course.

By the way, the police here is generally nice, if incompetent at times, and would use Miisha’s legal (female) name. It’s not like I sent a SWAT team.

Edit: Miisha insists this was not why she deleted her account. It’s clear she was already in distress so I’d say I wasn’t the only factor but given the timing, it was probably the last straw

So yeah, @Miisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone saw a sad chat, didn’t want to see it ever again and went the way of @AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone :(

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