I remember living in a small town and being on the outside of the “community” he so proudly boasts about. Small towns aren’t “communities”, they’re gossipy high schoolers that never left. I remember going to church and having “friendly” church people openly make slights about my family because we were poor. I remember people say hello to you on the street and then immediately turn to their friend and say “Did you hear about ____ and what happened?”
Nah, screw all of that. Big cities no one knows you and you can be you without being ostrasized just for going outside. I don’t have neighborhood karens asking me what I’m doing in their neighborhood.
I have never been carjacked or mugged, but I have been pushed out of small town cul-de-acs because I had police called on me and my friends for being “up to no good”. So yeah, keep your small town “communities”, I’m much happier being outside of them.
I grew up outside Chicago and hate big cities and the endless urban sprawl, moved to a tiny town in Wisconsin with less than 7k people and had similar experiences as you described. Currently living in a nice big/small town of about 50k and loving it. It’s big enough that most people don’t know me or my business, but small enough it still has that small town vibe to it. As an added bonus I’m only an hour or two away from large cities, so not an unreasonable drive if there’s something fun happening that I want to attend… I’ll probably live here for the rest of my life.
That’s very fair reasoning. Thanks for understanding why I hate small towns, people think I just hate the tininess of it (and I do, I hate driving 30 minutes to get a pizza), but it’s really how clique-y it gets. I like being able to choose who knows me and never see those I don’t want to know again
So weird, I don’t feel owned…
I remember living in a small town and being on the outside of the “community” he so proudly boasts about. Small towns aren’t “communities”, they’re gossipy high schoolers that never left. I remember going to church and having “friendly” church people openly make slights about my family because we were poor. I remember people say hello to you on the street and then immediately turn to their friend and say “Did you hear about ____ and what happened?”
Nah, screw all of that. Big cities no one knows you and you can be you without being ostrasized just for going outside. I don’t have neighborhood karens asking me what I’m doing in their neighborhood.
I have never been carjacked or mugged, but I have been pushed out of small town cul-de-acs because I had police called on me and my friends for being “up to no good”. So yeah, keep your small town “communities”, I’m much happier being outside of them.
I grew up outside Chicago and hate big cities and the endless urban sprawl, moved to a tiny town in Wisconsin with less than 7k people and had similar experiences as you described. Currently living in a nice big/small town of about 50k and loving it. It’s big enough that most people don’t know me or my business, but small enough it still has that small town vibe to it. As an added bonus I’m only an hour or two away from large cities, so not an unreasonable drive if there’s something fun happening that I want to attend… I’ll probably live here for the rest of my life.
That’s very fair reasoning. Thanks for understanding why I hate small towns, people think I just hate the tininess of it (and I do, I hate driving 30 minutes to get a pizza), but it’s really how clique-y it gets. I like being able to choose who knows me and never see those I don’t want to know again