I know I’m probably getting downvoted to hell for this. I think calling yourself “finsexual” does nothing to help you find a partner. Why do you even need that label? The obsession with applying increasingly specific labels to people doesn’t feel healthy. In reality, you meet people, and you like someone you meet, romantically and/or sexually and/or socially, or you don’t. These specific types of labels are only for people’s imaginary future partners and seem to be an attempt at having a modicum of control in a world that’s entirely uncertain and ambiguous
I don’t think they would use the term in a dating scene when interacting with people unless is on topic.
Why do you even need that label?
Why not?
The obsession with applying increasingly specific labels to people doesn’t feel healthy.
It would seem unhealthy to do so to others, but they are defining themselves in a space where specifically that is being discussed. That’s not obsession.
These specific types of labels are only for people’s imaginary future partners
Hard disagree. I agree with you in that when you find a partner you either like them or you don’t, and they don’t need to know much more that you like them.
These terms are for the person to understand themselves better so they can interact more efficiently with others, not a template that others need to know to interact with you.
I like women, but I don’t care much about what they have between their legs. That’s technically straight, but I’d say that a lot of straight people wouldn’t accept that, so I like to think I’m flex straight. I wouldn’t point it out to my partner unless we were talking about sexuality to begin with, but this is a post about sexuality, it’s very on topic to think more deeply about this stuff.
I know I’m probably getting downvoted to hell for this. I think calling yourself “finsexual” does nothing to help you find a partner. Why do you even need that label? The obsession with applying increasingly specific labels to people doesn’t feel healthy. In reality, you meet people, and you like someone you meet, romantically and/or sexually and/or socially, or you don’t. These specific types of labels are only for people’s imaginary future partners and seem to be an attempt at having a modicum of control in a world that’s entirely uncertain and ambiguous
I don’t think they would use the term in a dating scene when interacting with people unless is on topic.
Why not?
It would seem unhealthy to do so to others, but they are defining themselves in a space where specifically that is being discussed. That’s not obsession.
Hard disagree. I agree with you in that when you find a partner you either like them or you don’t, and they don’t need to know much more that you like them.
These terms are for the person to understand themselves better so they can interact more efficiently with others, not a template that others need to know to interact with you.
I like women, but I don’t care much about what they have between their legs. That’s technically straight, but I’d say that a lot of straight people wouldn’t accept that, so I like to think I’m flex straight. I wouldn’t point it out to my partner unless we were talking about sexuality to begin with, but this is a post about sexuality, it’s very on topic to think more deeply about this stuff.