• velma@sh.itjust.works
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    22 hours ago

    That makes me hesitant to ever identify as bisexual though and honestly that makes me really sad. I’ve become quite attached to bisexuality as a part of my identity and adhere to the definition @TwiddleTwaddle@lemmy.blahaj.zone used here:

    the bi part of bisexual refers to both homosexual (same gender) and heterosexual (different gender) so nobody’s left out. I guess an argument could be made that an agender person might not fit under either umbrella, but i would still consider agender to be either same gender (if the bisexual person is also agender) or different gender (if the bisexual person is not agender).

    I would just hate to signal to anyone not cis that I’m rejecting them based on my own identity.

    Edit: Ugh you? Yeah I’m not going to go with your definition of anything with comments like these in your history

    I like interacting with butch (not sure if that term is still in vogue, havent had the courage to ask) lesbians, they’re never as bitter as the fems.

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      20 hours ago

      I think that distinction just grew up with the current trend of trans-exclusion. I identify as bi and my bi club is explicitly inclusive of trans and NB folk. The transphobes will have to pry the ol’ pink and blue from my cold dead sexy bisexual hands.

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        20 hours ago

        The transphobes will have to pry the ol’ pink and blue from my cold dead sexy bisexual hands.

        Hell yeah!

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      21 hours ago

      All of this is just retroactive attempts to delineate the two labels after the concept of being transgender started to become understood by a wider portion of the public (and the queer community, for that matter). Don’t let faux-academic definitions define your identity. If “bisexual” feels like it fits but gender-nonconforming, agender, androgynous-presenting, and/or genderfluid people are also your thing, that’s entirely fine.

      (Edit: and it doesn’t in any way invalidate other people’s self-labeling when they categorize it differently to you. Labels are only there to simplify communication of ideas. They’re not a sports team.)

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      22 hours ago

      I would just hate to signal to anyone not cis that I’m rejecting them based on my own identity.

      That would imply being anything other than pansexual is wrong and discriminatory, period.

      It’s worth stressing that it’s perfectly fine to reject someone as a potential partner for any reason or even for no reason at all. For example if you find white women more attractive than black women, I don’t think it makes you racist if that’s just about attraction, not respect.

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        22 hours ago

        I would hate to signal it because I am personally attracted to cis and trans people, but still like to identify as bisexual. That’s all :)

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          22 hours ago

          You mean like how you have no idea if I’m a man or a woman? Funny how it’s one set of rules for you and another for me.

          Edit: To clarify, this isn’t a “You can’t define what a woman is” thing, it’s a “this user loves to make assumptions about me and is mad when I do the same” thing.

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            22 hours ago

            It’s bigoted as fuck to assert that all butch lesbians are cool and all fem lesbians are bitter.

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              22 hours ago

              I never said that. I said all the ones I encountered have been that way. There’s probably loads of fem lesbians that are cool, that don’t make their issues (or lack thereof) my problem. I’ve probably talked to a few that didn’t even feel the need to bring up their sexuality.

              Edit: As always, you’re jumping the gun and assuming my beliefs and positions so you have a punching bag.