196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish · 11 hours ago

to the bedroom. DAY 15 [OC, brainmade]

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to the bedroom. DAY 15 [OC, brainmade]

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196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish · 11 hours ago

consent is important. you wouldn’t wanna feed… someone who doesn’t like it. even if it hurts not to.

i hope orange is happy.

sorry, still no high quality catbox images. it’s still broken apparently. it’s been down for about a week by now?

the next post will be more upbeat, i promise… or at least i hope it will be. i could have put an *inspired note to explain the situation but i won’t as that would feel wrong. not everything needs background.

if orange doesn’t want to be fed, that’s okay… it’s okay. even if it may be an emotional shock at first… it must be accepted.

i have been accepted. and so should i do it for others. and i do. but sometimes, very rarely, it is so much harder than it should be.

when you like making bit jokes and your friend says that they really hate them and don’t want to be involved in any way… it hurts a little. and you might consider leaving that friend behind. maybe. or maybe y’all figure it out. that would be awesome.

Orange may come across more aggressive as intended, but that is because they are setting boundaries and don’t want to be misunderstood. even if swears make Lilac very sad. Lilac will make it over these feelings even if it may take some time.

White will always be there for Lilac, that is for sure. now Lilac knows that Orange is not someone to toy with. Orange is not a toy. and Lilac wont treat them as such anymore.

Orange isn’t White after all. thank god.

i hope you have a wonderful and lovely day and that you find someone with whom setting and learning boundaries is a vulnerable, understanding and empathetic experience.

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They can with ckearence. Consent is important. I do scramble fighters when needed yes.

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