Wow, you’re completely right and I never recognized this before. I’m your quintessential cat person. I’ve lived with cats since the day I was born. They cuddled with me in my crib. My first word was cat. We joked that I was raised by cats. I’m just used to cats and don’t often think about their behavior.

My partner is a dog person, so now we have a mixed family. When the dogs cross a boundary, we do something to correct their behavior and there is the expectation their behavior will change. If it doesn’t, we adjust our response until it does. When cats cross a boundary, we still do something to correct the behavior, but entirely expect the cat will continue doing it and respond no differently when they continue with the original behavior.